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Briana recorded this video a few years ago, knowing how important holding space is, and knew that one day she'd create a whole course around it. The Dragontree Life Coaching Program is that course, and the Illuminator Retreat is where our coaches gather to hone their skills, practice them, and see the power of it all magically unfold in their lives and the lives of others.
But holding space isn't just for coaches - it's for everyone - we can use it anytime we want to support someone we care about, to give them the space they need to figure out their own way.
We're preparing for our August Illuminator Retreat now, and wanted to share this video about Holding Space so that you can apply this vital skill in your own daily life, no course or retreat required.
Please share your thoughts, experiences, and questions about holding space in the comments below!
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Over the past few weeks I’ve been writing about conscious gift giving. Not only can we reduce how much goes into landfills, we can also do better than providing our loved ones with more stuff – even if they like having lots of stuff. If we have their highest good in mind, what might we offer them instead of shiny things?
Several studies have shown that experiences make us happier than material goods do 1 2, So consider giving experiences this holiday season. Since Briana and I are spa-owners, it’s always the first present we consider. A foot bath, massage, facial, or acupuncture treatment will not only be memorable, enjoyable, and relaxing, but also we know we’re giving health which is always a win/win gift. It may even inspire the recipient to continue taking better care of themselves.
Here are some more ideas for “experience-gifts”: a membership to a museum, zoo, athletic club, or community center; classes in music, dance, pilates, cooking, yoga, ceramics, painting, writing, singing, woodworking, glass blowing, tai chi, flying an airplane, meditation, surfing, herbal medicine, bee keeping, or crafting; airfare, lodging, or food; or an adventure such as ziplining, skydiving, scuba diving, river rafting, rock climbing, or cave exploring.
Similarly, you can give a gift of service. Make someone a gift certificate that entitles them to: house cleaning, garage organization, painting a room, doing their laundry, car washing, dog walking, cooking dinner, watching their kids, lawn mowing, snow shoveling, or helping them with some other challenging project you know they’ve been meaning to take care of. While you might not be able (or willing) to spend a hundred bucks or more on a present, you might easily be able to offer services that would cost that much. It’s a generous gift, greatly appreciated, easy on the environment, and strengthens community.
Last year we made “care packages” for homeless people. Into large ziplock bags we packed all sorts of useful basics like a toothbrush, toothpaste, tissues, comb, soap, snacks, hand sanitizer, and socks. While it’s wonderful to be able to give some cash to someone who’s out on the street, they may not easily be able to procure all these goods. So it’s really gratifying to be able to share one of these packages and see the look in the recipient’s eyes as they discover everything that’s inside. If you don’t have time to make care packages, you may be able to purchase meal vouchers or haircut vouchers and help a struggling person regain their dignity.
Finally, this holiday season and always, I encourage you to give what you wish to receive. This is both an internal and external practice. If you wish to receive support and approval, give support and approval to others. If you wish to experience more peace and joy, intend and inspire others to experience more peace and joy. If you wish to receive abundance, see the world as place of abundance. Wish abundance upon others. Spend your money without guilt or resentment (which isn’t to say you should spend without any regard for how much you have), intending that you’re keeping the wealth flowing and making space for even more to take its place.
May you always remain conscious of your inner light,
Peter
1 https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2014/10/buy-experiences/381132/
2 https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/17439760.2014.898316?journalCode=rpos20
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About 20 years ago, I started thinking about whether my name was right for me. Like most people, I neither loved nor hated it, and I felt it was kind of silly or frivolous to consider changing it. But I wasn’t sure that the name Peter was serving me anymore.
Around that time, I met a Vedic astrologer named Bharat who offered to draw up my chart. Based on the time and place of my birth, he told me my first name should ideally start with the sound “Lo.” It just so happens that my middle name is Logan, which felt like quite a coincidence, and the idea of going by my middle name seemed less eccentric than changing it to something entirely new.
I was acquainted with an elderly woman who had a reputation for knowing what the right name for a person was, so I decided to get her opinion. We were in a dance class together, and after class one day I asked her what she thought about my going by Logan instead of Peter. “Let me think about it,” she replied.
A week later she told me, “If you went by Logan, a part of your personality that comes through with the ‘Pee’ sound in Peter would be lost. And I like that part.”
I trusted her, so I let go of the idea of calling myself Logan, but I continued to feel that I might be limited by my name. There was a growing sense that every time I used this name I was reinforcing the notion that my identity is the history, beliefs, and personality of Peter Logan Borten.
I started to feel differently about people who changed their names as part of a healing process or spiritual awakening. I realized that it must have taken a lot of courage. They risked weirding-out their friends, family, and coworkers for the sake of something more important – their own freedom and potential.
In our advanced level Dragontree Life Coaching training last weekend, we did a day-long process about death. More striking than the fears people had about the death of their bodies was the angst – and liberation – surrounding the death of their ego (including their personal history and all of their stories about themselves).
Part of the process was giving a title to an internal story. Any time you find yourself feeling like a victim, like life is treating you unfairly, or that things aren't going according to the plan, it can be useful to determine if there’s a story that you’re subconsciously participating in and then give it a title. For instance: “I Lost My Only Chance at True Love” or “I Always Hold Back From My True Potential” or “Nobody Respects Me.” There are small stories and big, overarching stories.
Often, we’re unaware of the stories we’ve constructed, but when we come up with a title it's easy to see how much we comply with the narrative. We can be so insistent on the validity of the story that we’re almost compelled to keep playing the tragic main character.
Two of the big questions that came up in our weekend were, “How am I limited by this identity?” and “Who would I be without it?” We avoid abandoning the story because: (1) it means we were “wrong” about this story being true, (2) it means doing something new, unknown, and uncomfortable, and (3) it means letting go of whatever “benefits” we may have derived from perpetuating that story. But I encourage you to take a moment to feel into that second question. What if you were able to let go of all of your stories and identities – who would you be? What would you do? How would life feel?
Our stories are usually attached to the name of the main character. Sometimes the bond is very strong, other times weaker. In many cultures, taking a new name upon beginning a new chapter is an established and culturally acceptable rite, but that’s not often the case in the West. So, do we need to get rid of our name in order to let go of our story?
In my opinion, it’s not essential but for many people it makes liberation and empowerment easier. I can tell you with utter certainty and conviction that I am not Peter Logan Borten. Peter Logan Borten is the name assigned to this body and the personality attached to it, but the name Peter Logan Borten doesn't come close to encompassing my true identity. This is also true for the Being bearing your name. Numerous religions say the same about assigning a name to God. The first line of the Daoist classic, Dao De Jing, is “The Dao that can be named is not the true Dao.”
Even if your name doesn’t feel like a heavy weight, perhaps you can still perceive that you’re less than your Whole, Authentic Self when you’re playing the part of the character who has your name. If so, I recommend doing some journaling on this. Consider these questions:
- How do you feel about your name?
- Who is [insert your name here]?
- What’s one (or more) of your limiting stories?
- When you play the part of [your name] how are you limited?
- Who would you be without this identity?
- How does it feel to consider letting go of your name?
- Is there another name that feels right for you? A name without baggage – and better yet, a name that feels like it would unleash new potential?
If you do feel baggage attached to your current name, but, like most people, you’re not willing to change it, see if you can “cleanse” the name. Imagine you’re deleting all of your name’s “cookies” like you’d do to clear your web browser’s history – release all old perspectives and associations. Or come up with your own process for refreshing that name and making it your own, such as writing it on a piece of paper and burning it; writing it on something washable and immersing it in water; reclaiming it, loving it, breathing new life into it; making art that’s centered around your name, etc.
You could also watch how you introduce yourself, and rather than making your name your identity by saying, for instance, “I AM Peter,” make the subtle change to, “My name’s Peter.” If a name comes to you that would feel fresh and liberating, you can try using it just with yourself, or share it with only those with whom you’re most comfortable.
Notice what happens. Does it feel different when people use your name? Do you feel freer to be yourself when you use a different name or have “cleansed” your current name? Share with us below. Have you changed your name? What was your experience with retiring your given name and choosing a new one?
Be well,
The Being Formerly Known as Peter
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Briana recorded this video a few years ago, knowing how important holding space is, and knew that one day she'd create a whole course around it. The Dragontree Life Coaching Program is that course, and the Illuminator Retreat is where our coaches gather to hone their skills, practice them, and see the power of it all magically unfold in their lives and the lives of others.
But holding space isn't just for coaches - it's for everyone - we can use it anytime we want to support someone we care about, to give them the space they need to figure out their own way.
We're preparing for our August Illuminator Retreat now, and wanted to share this video about Holding Space so that you can apply this vital skill in your own daily life, no course or retreat required.
Please share your thoughts, experiences, and questions about holding space in the comments below!
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I love this thank you!
I believe that I am taking space when I crochet. When crocheting becomes rote, my mind is empty. I’m almost asleep. When I come to, an hour or two has passed.
Thank you 🙂 Just wondering you mentioned your book? Can you get that in CD form?
Hi Denise,
I don’t have a release date for an audiobook, but its definitely in our plans. We’ll let you know when one is available. Thanks for asking ❤