Statistics show that women are far more likely to go to the doctor, the spa, and engage in self-care than men. Meanwhile, men tend to be better at, well… dying younger. I’m not saying there’s any connection, but I think it’s important that men care for themselves and let themselves be cared for.
In my practice and at The Dragontree, women make up the vast majority of our clients. That probably won’t change anytime soon—but it would be great if guys could close the gap, even just a little.
If you’re a man reading this, maybe you’ve already been to one of our spas. If not, let me encourage you: book a session. Not because we want your business, but because you deserve to feel good. And you’re going to love it.
A lot of men pride themselves on being self-reliant. But deep down, I think most of us still want to be taken care of. When we’re lucky, we find a partner who can do that for us sometimes—and it’s wonderful. But learning to let yourself receive safe, therapeutic touch or compassionate, holistic care is something else altogether. It’s powerful. It’s healing. It’s life-changing.
If you’re a woman with an important man in your life, consider nudging him toward this kind of care. And if he happens to be a father, Father’s Day is the perfect excuse.
I’ve been gently nagging my own dad for years. I even work on him when I’m visiting back in Boston. But it wasn’t until he was in his seventies that he finally had his first professional massage. He didn’t walk away an instant convert—but I think he would’ve been if he’d gotten it at The Dragontree!
And if a full-body massage doesn’t feel like the right fit? That’s okay. Some of my former male clients preferred to stay in shorts and a t-shirt. A facial might be even better. Guys, please believe me: having someone gently wash and massage your face is like getting a preview of heaven.
Beyond being cared for by others, I want to see more men taking care of themselves—intentionally, lovingly. That’s why we do what we do: to create spaces where healing, rest, and connection are not just possible, but encouraged.
So even if you are the dad, this is your nudge. Give yourself a pat on the back today—and don’t stop there.
With deep gratitude to my own dad, and to all the fathers who show up with heart,
Dr. Peter Borten